A woman shared a conversation between her two children, the older boy and his younger sister. I donât recall the exact incident but in summary her daughter had uttered certain words to her friends that were not particularly pleasant. This had gone on to mar the relationship she (the daughter) had had with them (her friends). She complained about it while at home and her brother went on to remark (paraphrased) âYou need to learn to insert a filter between your brain and your mouth!â.
A filter (a noun) is a porous device for removing impurities or solid particles from a liquid or gas passed through it. Filter can also mean (as a verb) to pass (a liquid, gas, light, or sound) through a device to remove unwanted material. I am sure we are quite familiar with the filter concept. Drinking water companies bombard us daily with advertisements on how well filtered their products are. Social media has given us filter options to make our images look better than they originally are. Even car owners are always sure to have their filters cleaned or changed where necessary.

How often do you change/ clean/ renew the filter to your mind/ soul? The filter to your heart/ spirit? âAnd be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.â (Romans 12:2 KJV). Many a time the way we speak to others or respond to a situation is pivoted on what our subconscious minds have been ruminating on over a period of time. It could even be a myriad of events that leads to our explosive response to that situation. It only takes that perfect action to determine your reaction and the words you speak. Very often these tend to expose your true thoughts and perspectives on that specific issue. As the word of God says; we speak out of the abundance of our hearts.
There are two main lessons the young lady from our opening story learned the hard way. Firstly, always be swift to apologize when you offend someone. Anytime you find yourself in a place where you take an entrenched position such that you believe the other party does not deserve an apology, pause and keep your ego in check. A posture of self conceit does not win battles. Secondly, learn to be graceful with your speech no matter how right your viewpoint is. âLet your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.â (Colossians 4:6 KJV). Many a time it takes humble statements such as; âI am sorry about what I said, it was out of placeâ or âPardon me for how I acted, it was inappropriateâ or âThanks for the other day, I appreciate your kindnessâ, to numb whatever negative emotion our words or actions might have provoked. These simple but powerful verbal gestures go a long way to create a mutually healthy relationship for us and those we supposedly care about. Remember in Proverbs 15:1 KJV the Bible says âA soft answer turneth away wrath: But grievous words stir up anger.â Our âegoâ and âunguarded wordsâ however often stir us up to exhibit our subconscious inadequacies, the very nature we attempt to suppress. As children of God, that shouldnât be our reality.

ââA good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.ââLuke 6:45 NLT
Notice that prior to Jesus making this statement according to the gospel of Luke, he shared a parable. From the verse 39 of chapter 6, he speaks about the blindâs inability to lead the blind and a servantâs inability to be greater than his master. Jesus admonishes is to take out the beam in our own eyes rather than focus on the mole in our brothers eye. He blatantly calls such persons hypocrites because a tree can only bring forth fruits of its own kind. Now let us pause and reflect: what are the things that we spend most of our time on? On what foundations are our virtues/values built? Let us proceed to observe what Jesus teaches about foundations.
ââSo why do you keep calling me âLord, Lord!â when you donât do what I say? I will show you what itâs like when someone comes to me, listens to my teaching, and then follows it. It is like a person building a house who digs deep and lays the foundation on solid rock. When the floodwaters rise and break against that house, it stands firm because it is well built. But anyone who hears and doesnât obey is like a person who builds a house right on the ground, without a foundation. When the floods sweep down against that house, it will collapse into a heap of ruins.ââLuke 6:46-49 NLT
It is evident what our foundation must be; the precious word of God. When you donât retain God in your memory you will give room to a reprobate mind. âNow as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith.â (2 Timothy 3:8 KJV). If you go after false news, lies, gossip and rumour or just follow frailties because they are trending or in vogue, then you certainly will be feeding your soul with garbage. There is also the other side of this coin where certain persons are the masters of sugar quoting even the deadliest words to make themselves look good, deception in the highest order. Quoting Episcopal Sister Adelaide Heward-Mills, âThey often say what is acceptable but what is usually the real motive is hiddenâ. May Jehovah deliver His children from all such persons.

âMake me to go in the path of thy commandments; For therein do I delight.â Psalm 119:35 KJV
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthyâmeditate on these things. Philippians 4:8 KJV
If you use the above scriptures as basis to filter the kind of information that you expose yourself to, be it consciously or otherwise, you are more likely to only imbibe content that nourishes your soul. Let this be the measure for controlling information that you allow your soul to meditate on and your spirit to thrive on. May it not be said of us âoutside gentility, home cryâ because men primarily look at the outward appearance but God looks and sees our hearts.
âSo teach us to number our days, That we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.â Psalm 90:12 KJV
âShew me thy ways, O LORD; Teach me thy paths. Lead me in thy truth, and teach me: For thou art the God of my salvation; on thee do I wait all the day.â Psalm 25:4-5 KJV
Till the next Holy-Spirit-inspired musing:
â Meditate on Godâs word to preserve your peace of mind
â Walk in truth to guard heart (your spirituality and sanity)
â Spread love, kindness and positivity
â Be cautious not only with what you say but also how you put it across

âPleasant words are as an honeycomb, Sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.â (Proverbs 16:24 KJV). Never forget to pray and feed your soul with the word of God daily. Let the words of our mouths and the meditations of our hearts be acceptable to you oh Lord we pray, in Jesusâ matchless Name, Amen.
Love, Esinam.































